Loss and mourning

In this column, I talked about some details about loss and mourning, which we started to hear more frequently, especially in the post-earthquake period. Source: Kamusonhaber

Loss and Mourning

With the earthquake, which is our hottest agenda, we have painfully realized the existence of death in our lives.

As a result of this traumatic disaster, the concepts of loss and mourning entered the lives of thousands of us.

Of course, it was already formed in the lives of many of us, and this was reinforced by our losses.

Loss and mourning is a very compelling experience, experienced in a state of intense grief and often anguish, along with unhappiness and sadness.

This experience is the most from universal life is one. It is a natural, but corrosive, response to loss that can get overly complex.

basically most striking life changeIt would be surprising if such a complex and compelling response did not occur as a result of loss.

Loss and mourning can manifest in a variety of ways from person to person. Thus, it can be observed with different behaviors.

The most intensely observed are changes in sleep and appetite. These changes are likely to cause serious physical as well as psychological problems.

However, the most important behavioral reaction that we should pay attention to, especially in this process where there is a lot of loss. social isolation and withdrawalis still.

With the feelings of intense grief, sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, and anguish we feel with loss and mourning, we have a serious introversionenters into a state of mind and these feelings we exacerbate by not consuming.

We fall into despair and hopelessness by narrowing the social support network, which is one of the most important coping strategies, especially in loss and grief.

With this experiential avoidance, we become even more lonely and preoccupy our minds mostly with our losses and the resulting emotions.

Thus, our emotions become more intense, and our entire psychological and even physiological balance is turned upside down.

If we cannot return from this isolation to interaction and activity, our existential crises may increase.

Thus, by rejecting the standards of life and the pain it causes, we can think of death, of harming ourselves, and at this point it becomes clear how serious an issue social isolation is.

For this reason, in order to cope with the grief and loss I experienced in this troubled period, we must first pay attention to increasing our social interactions.

I know it may sound pointless and useless. We may think that we will not get any results. We may not even find the energy to do this ourselves.

But the consequences of social isolation are obvious, and despite all these thoughts and feelings, we need to talk to people.

We must act according to our loss, not according to the stereotypes of “You must be strong”, which is the heaviest bullshit of society.

We should express to our friends that we miss our losses. We must share our sorrow and grief.

We have to cry and even express our thoughts towards life.

Thus, by exhausting these complex senses, we can cope with support.

Dealing with loss and mourning does not mean becoming insensitive to loss and forgetting.

It is accepting this situation, keeping it as striking and precious memories in my memories and being able to continue.

Let the first sentences be mine: I am very sorry for my loss. I will miss them. As our memories come back to me, I get sad and cry. I don’t feel weak from missing them and crying. These memories and experiences are mine and I accept them. They are my precious and I continue my life with them.

Source: https://www.kamusonhaber.com.tr/kayip-ve-yas-55897h.htm