Grief process in children

* When it comes to the loss of a loved one, what should be considered for the communication and help that preschool children need? * Which reactions of the child should be considered normal, which reactions require psychological help? * What should be considered when making a death statement?

Preschoolers need an explanation of death.

In order for a child not to think that the deceased will come back or to worry that he will lose everyone, it would be useful to consider these explanations in detail and to explain them concretely, with the support of a specialist if necessary.

Children may react quite differently from adults’ expectations. However, their reactions may indicate that they do not understand, but that they want some time.

  • May not react at all
  • May experience serious emotional outbursts
  • He may riot loudly,
  • can cry,
  • He may want to strike in anger,
  • He can listen and get back to his game.
  • The theme of death can work in his games.

For a while, the children’s processing of the death theme in the game shows that they are trying to make sense of it.

When explaining to children;

“He went to heaven.”

“He will always be watching us”

“She became an angel”

“God took him with him.”

Preschool age group children cannot make sense of abstract explanations such as these and may expect the person to come back.

  • If outbursts of anger have occurred/increased,
  • If parents are concerned about disclosure,
  • If there is a concern that if I lost him, I might lose everyone I love,
  • If the child is constantly on the alert for things that may happen to him,
  • If it’s introverted,
  • If he feels guilty
  • If he started acting like he was younger than his age,

It is necessary to seek psychological help.